Relationships are taking different dimensions in our world today given especially the advancement of technology; and given that certain types of jobs means people travel and be away for a long time or even travelling for educational purposes or to seek greener pastures, long distance relationships then become an issue.
It’s difficult to balance your friendships and your career with any romantic relationship, let alone one in which you don’t get to see the other person whenever you want. Plus, while romantic relationships can be wonderfully fulfilling, they are work as it is.
Factor in time differences, busy schedules, and miles apart, and you could really start feeling the strain of a long distance relationship. Let’s face it: long distance relationships can be rough. If you’ve been there, you know it all too well.
But, thanks to technology, maintaining a long distance relationship these days is easier than ever. Here are tips to maintaining your long distance relationship:
Use the tools
No matter how archaic you might be, if you want your long distance relationship to work out, you must learn to adopt tools technology has presented in these times for connection, communication and collaboration.
Using technology tools such as WhatsApp Facebook Messenger video calling or Snapchat, Skype, or FaceTime can certainly make that distance gap feel narrower. Being miles apart can be great for your sext life and improve your phone sex skills that keeps relationships burning like hot coal.
These apps are basically free; what you will need is a Smartphone and a data bundle, and your relationship is tickling like you two are actually in one place together.
Maximize the power of video calling; do virtually everything together at all places, even when you are in the toilet. There would be no reason for a partner to think the other is cheating.
With so many devices and notifications, it can be really, really easy to get distracted when you’ve got screen time with your loved one, especially when the video lags and it doesn’t feel like you’re having a conversation.
Make a concerted effort to spend one-on-one time the way it was meant to be spent: one-on-one.
Close any programs and any windows that aren’t your video chat app of choice.
Go old school
Yes go old school!
There’s nothing quite like a letter in your mailbox but sometimes it’s not possible to send a letter or it takes too long to deliver.
Emails are wonderful and so fast… but there’s something special about being able to see the other person’s handwriting, not just uniform letters on a white screen.
So, send a digital love letter instead. Use a pen and write a letter on paper, draw some coloured hearts, snap using your Smartphone’s camera, and forward to your love one, email address or WhatsApp line.
Its a beauty to behold those fowl scratched handwriting you know.
It’s easy to do with a tablet.
Say “I love you”
Too much of “I love you” won’t kill your relationship. Say “I love you” to your partner across all channels at every opportunity possible and impossible; and mean it.
Talk raw and don’t be vague… nothing is wrong with spilling your soft side out with your gal. Say “I love you,” and keep saying it. There’s no such thing as saying it enough, if you mean it.
Know technology’s limitations
Be patient. The nuances of face-to-face communication are lost when you’re forced to connect online and over the phone. Don’t dwell on what your partner “meant” by something if you think there are two ways to interpret a text, or an email, or whatever. Whatever you “thought” they meant won’t matter tomorrow. Consider video to text to diminish miscommunication.
When you cant get your partner on the line, don’t let negativity set in.
Turn off tech
Dear technology, we love you, and we hate you. Turn the tech off to make time for yourselves. Be social from time to time, but also be conscious of nurturing what matters most to you guy – your relationship.
Technology can’t augment the human experience; so turn off the tech, and meet face to face.
And sometimes, doing nothing at all is most fun. Consider time your partner spends at the office or hustling or time at school and all that.
And when you finally meet again, the fire consumes more, and the heat more than 100 degrees.
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